"Hate on me hater, now or later. 'Cause I'm gonna do me. You'll be mad, baby!"
There isn't any refuting Jill Scott's argument here. People are going to hate, hate, hate, even if I'm being my true and authentic self. People are still going to think I'm being "phony" or "fake" of just find some other way to disapprove of me, but I don't need anyone's approval to be myself. If you don't believe that I'm being me, that's on you and not me.
I have worked hard to prove myself at Sonoma State. I work hard in my academics, I work hard for my students, I work hard to make this school a better place than I found it. I don't pretend to be anyone I'm not in the process. I know that for myself, and whether or not others believe it is up to them.
Why do people hate? That's almost asking the same question as, "why does the sun set?"
We hate or dislike or discredit because we become convinced that it comes along with our basic "human nature," which simply isn't true. It does, however, come with our egos.
There's always a reason for our hating on each other. "She think she better than me!" "I don't like his attitude." "She's always got a facade up." "I don't like the way she acts." And so on, and so forth.
But are these things really the truth, or stories we convince ourselves are real?
I can hate and hate and hate on the people in my past who have caused me pain, and where does it get me? Nowhere, or worse, behind where I started from. I had to learn that the hard way.
I can't help the way people perceive me, and neither can any of us. Because the truth is, I can do all the work I do and bust my hump and try to help as much as I want, and there are always going to be people who don't approve or like what I'm doing. They may dislike my personality. And ironically, the people that make the most judgments about me don't know me well enough to even open their mouths.
But guess what? I'm not going to change anytime soon, so that's on you, boo.
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